Friday, December 24, 2010

Depressing

This is my most depressing Christmas in recent memory. I have totally no mood to be merry or cheerful.

The true meaning of Christmas will always hold dear in my heart. But this Christmas, I feel no joy or excitement or merry. Buying Christmas presents was mechanical, for family and colleagues and friends.

I fractured my little right toe in November. More than 5 weeks ago. It is still swollen. Have not gone for a jog or badminton or what in a long while. Walked my Half Marathon in 3hrs 45mins under the hot sun. How sad is that?

Fed up with certain people in my life, near and not so near to me.

I simply bo-chap my cpu Rahab party. Hard work to prepare eng + chn carols and it gets thrown out by cpu leader. Even give everyone Youtube links & song lyrics via email like 3 weeks b4 to learn but I hear "its too difficult. I'll get church caroling team to come". Sigh........

Dad gone shopping for eye specialists agst my advice and the 2nd one today told him even more dire stories. He can see very well but is now bothered abt possibility of going blind from glaucoma or something else. At his age past 70, I don't need to be eye specialist to say, 'it could be glaucoma or ....... but we can't be sure". Prescribed multiple tests with fancy machines, Gives eye drops, eye cleanser and tablets, etc. Sigh......shop around and private specialists will tell you what you want to hear and yet not want to hear.

Wifey is.....sigh.

It's a rotten and depressing christmas season 2010.

Thankfully, even if I lose everything, I still got my Creator and Lord who loves me despite or in spite of everything because the bible says:

Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or peril, or sword?  As it is written:


      “ For Your sake we are killed all day long;
       We are accounted as sheep for the slaughter.”

 Yet in all these things we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. For I am persuaded that neither death nor life, nor angels nor principalities nor powers, nor things present nor things to come, nor height nor depth, nor any other created thing, shall be able to separate us from the love of God which is in Christ Jesus our Lord. [Romans 8: 35-39]

Friday, December 17, 2010

A Christmas To-Do List

by Mark Mitchell, with JoHannah Reardon

Thursday, April 30, 2009


So often in the Christmas story, we focus on the main characters: Mary, Joseph, and, of course, Jesus. But through the short account in Luke 2:8-20, we can learn from the shepherds four things that should make the top of our to-do list this Christmas.



Believe

The angels announced in spectacular fashion that the Messiah had been born. As soon as the angels left, the shepherds looked at each other and said: What are we waiting for? Let's go straight to Bethlehem and see this thing that has happened.

There is no debate. There is no procrastination. They don't decide to sleep on it. They don't go to the local library for research. They just believe it. That's faith. Scripture says that without faith it's impossible to please God. The angel said, "Peace on earth among people with whom he is pleased." Who is that? It's those who respond to God's gift through faith. Scripture says, "For by grace you are saved, through faith …."

Faith means you say yes to all that God did through Christ. Yes, he is the Savior of the world. Yes, he came to die for my sins. Yes, through him I find forgiveness and new life. Yes, I want to follow Christ as Lord. Faith isn't a spectator sport; it's an active embracing of all that God has promised in Christ.

Obey

The shepherds did exactly as they were told. We sometimes think of Christmas as a tame holiday. We think of sweet little baby Jesus asleep on a bed of hay. Everyone loves that because it's so innocuous and safe. But Christmas isn't safe! That baby is the King of kings and the Lord of lords. He has come to usher in a kingdom that rivals the kingdom of self. That's threatening. He bids those who would follow him to take up their cross daily—to lay aside our own right to rule ourselves, to surrender to his rule.

The world loves to celebrate the birth of Christ, but they hate to obey him as the Lord of their lives. Everyone wants to keep Christ in the manger. But the manger is meaningless apart from the Cross. As one writer put it many years ago: "This little babe, so few days old, is come to rifle Satan's fold; all hell doth at his presence quake, though he himself for cold does shake." Christmas is a time for obedience.


Tell

When the shepherds arrived in Bethlehem and saw the child lying in the feed trough, "they spread the word concerning what had been told them about this child." They weren't preachers; they weren't missionaries, but that didn't matter. They had heard and seen something that meant salvation for the whole world.

Christmas trees, eggnog, and exchanging of gifts are fine, but if we do all that stuff but don't talk about Jesus—if we fail to speak of the real meaning of it all; if we neglect to tell someone that this child was born as Savior and Lord, that he was sent by God to die on the Cross to purchase with royal blood our own deliverance from sin, death, and the devil; if we neglect to publish that abroad, we've failed to do Christmas right.

The angel said that this is good news of great joy which shall be for all the people. Share the joy.


Experience

The shepherds were overwhelmed at the angel's announcement. They experienced holy wonder.

How can you engage in holy wonder? Maybe that means you stop in the middle of your shopping, sit down, and read the Christmas story. Maybe that means you gather your children around a Nativity scene each night and unwrap a different piece and talk about the role it plays in the Christmas story. Maybe that means you wake up early one morning and find a place you can watch the sun rise as you meditate on Luke 1:79.

The work of holy wonder is treasuring and pondering the fact that God invaded planet Earth on a perilous rescue mission. Amidst all the activity, stop and treasure all these things. Ponder them in your heart. Engage in some holy wonder.

By Mark Mitchell, with JoHannah Reardon

Thursday, December 16, 2010

Being Wrong

"A whole lot of us go through life assuming that we are basically right, basically all the time, about basically everything: about our political and intellectual convictions, our religious and moral beliefs, our assessment of other people, our memories, our grasp of facts. As absurd as it sounds when we stop and think about it, our steady state seems to be one of unconsciously assuming that we are very close to omniscient." – Kathryn Shulz, Being Wrong: Adventures in the Margin of Error (Ecco, 2010)

Sunday, November 7, 2010

Guard What Captures Your Heart (Proverbs 4:23)

by Pastor David Holdaway

Keep your heart with all diligence,
For out of it spring the issues of life
(Proverbs 4:23, KJV)

  • If our heart is not right, everything around us will not be right
  • Man looks at the outward but God looks at the heart
  • In a church, there were 100 men with long hair who got saved. One day, someone told the pastor that the men with long hair should cut it short. The pastor decided not to command the men to cut their hair. Instead, he told the 100 men to ask God to tell them if they should cut their long hair. When the pastor checked, 60 (60%) decided to cut their long hair while 40 (40%) decided not to. When the pastor asked the 60 men why they kept long hair, they told him that they kept long hair to protest against authority, as a symbol of their rebellion and now they felt God telling them that they should cut it off. When the pastor asked the 40men why they kept long hair, they said "because they liked long hair". The issue was therefore not men keeping their hair long. But the issue was what it represents.
  • Ultimately what decides the choices we makes is what holds out heart.
  • Let's say you are 40,000 feet in the air in an aeroplane. You see a door with the words "Do not open". Let's say you decide to open the door and jump from the door. Then you're falling down. But you say to yourself, that it's not your fault that you are falling because it is due to a greater law which is the law of gravity. However, opening the door was our choice which preceded the falling due to the law of gravity.
  • Some people think that they are thinking when they are just rearranging their priorities.
  • Values, virtues and priorities in our heart determines how we think, process information and make decisions.
  • Some christians have encountered disappointments in life in the past. They get over it but the disappointment have affected their heart to the extent that they live their christian life at a low level because they want to avoid future disappointments.
  • There are issues that come along and rob our heat of what holds dear to us and our passion for God.
  • There are 3 kinds of knowledge. (1) Mathematical, (2) Logical and (3) Relational. Adam knew Eve and conceived. To know someone is to enter into a relationship with the person. To know God is to enter into a relationship with Him. It is not knowing a great about God but knowing Him.
  • The highest form of knowledge is knowing, relational. Highest form of knowledge is not law or logic but love.
  • Our heart is the gateway to our spirit.What happens to our heart affects our spirit. The heart can be crushed and the spirit will be crushed too. The heart can be broken and the spirit can be broken too.
  • Joshua & Caleb followed God wholeheartedly.They had a different spirit. They saw the same buildings and giants as the other 10 spies but they saw things differently. They were the only ones who entered the Promised Land. An 11 day journey took 40 years because fear came upon the hearts of the Israelites after the 10 other spies presented their report.
  • Daniel followed God wholeheartedly. He had an excellent spirit.
  • There is a difference between preaching the Word and ministering the Word. It is possible to speak mind to mind, make an audience laugh with a few funny stories, even speak soul to soul. But it is different to minister the Word to others. There is a difference between singing a Song and ministering a Song. There is a difference between saying a prayer and ministering in prayer.
  • Anyone can pray with His name. But not everyone prays in His name. Jesus said, in His name, we can speak to the mountain and asked it to move to the sea. Jesus said to ask in His name, and it will be given to us. When we pray in His name, our heart and our spirit has to be involved.
  • A person with a divided heart will have a double minded mind and live a defeated life. The greatest irony is that Solomon, the writer of  Proverbs 4:23 did not heed his own commands. The bible said he had 700 wives and 300 concubines. He married foreign wives and worshipped their foreign gods. The Bible said Solon heart had turned from the Lord God and he went after other gods (1 Kings 11:9-10). In the end, his divided led to a divided kingdom and the nation of Israel was never the same again.
  • A heart after God is not where we are now, but a desire to be more like Him. It is about the direction we are going in. Example given. Category 1 christian, those who just accepted Christ and had lots of issues to resolve and much to learn about scriptures and God. Category 10 is those who are exactly like Christ. We find there are those in Category 3 who are young in Christ, but who are always full of testimonies about answered prayer, how God is speaking to them and dealing with the issues in their lives. Then we have those in Category 7 who have been saved 30 years who know the bible well but can only tell us what God did in their lives 25 years ago. The difference is that the Category 7 christians were in Category 8 and is now on the way to Category 6 while the Category 3 christian was Category 2 about 3 months ago. Therefore, it is not where we are now but the direction we are going.
  • 2 Tests
    • We are known by our reactions than our actions. We usually have time to think over our actions but not our reactions. We react out of our hearts. How we react reflects our heart.
    • We know what has captured our heart by the price it takes to buy our heart or by the fact that we will not be bought by any price. A very rich man was sitting in a cafe drinking coffee. A sweet young lady sat at his table. He asked the lady if she will sleep with the man drinking coffee on the right for $10 million dollars. She said to him that $10 million dollars is a lot of money and for that amount she will sleep with that man. He then asked her if she will sleep with the man drinking coffee on the left for $10. The lady reacted, "$10? What kind of woman do you think I am?" The rich man replied her that what kind of woman is not the question anymore. Just the price.
  • We all can fail as David did. But David had a heart after God's own heart. David could have ordered the prophet Nathan executed as king. But he confessed and Psalm 51 is the most public heart rending confession we can read. "Create in me a clean heart and renew a steadfast spirit within me". David asked for a clean heart. He repented. The bible said that David was a man after God's own heart. It is how we respond after we have fail that is important.

Thursday, October 21, 2010

THREE PROMISES OF HOPE WHEN I AM SINKING INTO THE ABYSS OF DEFEAT OR DISPAIR

"THE FACTS OF THE MATTER"

"A weekly letter of encouragement to business and professional men and women"

October 20, 2010

Good Morning!

THREE  PROMISES OF HOPE WHEN I AM SINKING INTO THE ABYSS OF DEFEAT OR DISPAIR
 
1) My survival in troubled times:  As I write this article, we seem to be in a global crisis over the energy issue.  Because there is uncertainty in the air as to the long term implications, it is easy for me to find myself in an anxious state of fear. Will God continue to provide?
 
And God’s wonderful promise to his children comes back: “You give relief from troubled times. The LORD will not reject his people; he will not abandon his own special possession.”  (Psa.  94:13, 14)  (See 2 Cor. 4:17, 18; 2 Thes. 1:6-8; Rev. 14:13)
My prayer:  “Lord, today, I choose to rest in your promise to take care of your righteous ones.  Amen.”
2) My feeling that I am slipping:  Here how it plays out for me in my times of temptation and stress:  All the ugly stuff seems to surface:  Anger, impatience, a nasty tongue and a compounding frustration that leads to the inevitable downward spiral into the abyss.   Often it starts out with some rather innocuous irritation that I let get the best of me, and before I know it, I am ricocheting out of control. What usually follows are doubts about my sense of worth, what others think of me, and questioning my worthiness before God.
Yet, He is there to meet me in my moments of crisis: ”I cried out, ‘I'm slipping!’ and your unfailing love, O LORD, supported me. When doubts filled my mind, your comfort gave me renewed hope and cheer.”  (Psa. 94:18, 19 NLT)  (See Psa. 37:23, 24; 119:116, 117; 121:3; Isa. 41:10; Lk. 22:32)
My prayer:  “Lord, thank you for your forgiveness and promise of comfort, hope and cheer.  By faith, I now receive your provision, in Jesus’ name. Amen.”
3) My insecurities and fears, living as I do in an evil world:  “Can unjust leaders claim that God is on their side— leaders who permit injustice by their laws? They attack the righteous and condemn the innocent to death. But the LORD is my fortress; my God is a mighty rock where I can hide.” (Psa. 94:20, 21 NLT) 
Amidst the fray of cut throat business competition, people all around me are shading the truth, cutting corners, and taking the un-principled easy path.  If I dare choose the lonely road of integrity; if I dare  speak out against the culture of corruption and injustice if I dare to try and change the system, I am branded and marginalized as some kind of nut, and ejected from the inner circle of the “in” crowd.  It a word, it will cost me dearly. 
Here is God’s assurance to me:  “But the LORD is my fortress; my God is a mighty rock where I can hide.”  (Psa. 94:22 NLT)  (See Psa. 27:1-3; 59:16, 17; 62:2,6)
My prayer:  “Lord, in my moments of perplexity in a world of selfishness and corruption, help me to find my refuge in you, and in you alone.”
CONCLUSION:  In Hebrews 13:5, God promises us, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”  As Oswald Chambers reminds us, “Sometimes it is not the difficulty of life, but the drudgery of it that makes me think God will forsake me…But as we grow in His grace we find that God is glorifying Himself here and  now, at this very moment.  If we have God’s assurance behind us [that he will never leave nor forsake us] the most amazing strength becomes ours, and we learn to sing, glorifying Him even in the ordinary days and ways of life.”

This week may you experience His grace, peace and protection!

R. Dwight Hill

Saturday, September 25, 2010

How do you develop a church staff?

This articles or the points in it applies to developing any staff, whether in a church or office.
How do you develop a church staff?
By Glen Kreun
I’ve been asked this question often throughout my 20 years of ministry at Saddleback.   I’ve talked with countless pastors and church leaders about staffing issues. I sincerely empathize with them as I listen to the horrors they face concerning staff difficulties.
Unfortunately, most of the problems they face, and are now asking for guidance to resolve, are a reflection of a mistake first made when they brought the person on staff.
Staff development begins when you make the decision that there’s a need to hire someone, not when the staff person comes onboard or when you are having difficulties with that person.

As I reflect on the years I’ve been responsible for developing staff, I’ve concluded there are three very important steps in the process.
• First, consider the type of person you want on your staff.
• Second, write a job description or position description.
• Third, have a thorough interview process.

First, consider the type of person you want to hire.  You’ll spend a huge portion of your life around your staff, whether it is large or small.  With that in mind, you need to think about what kind of person you want to interact with on a regular basis.  If you don’t enjoy where you work, why would anyone else want to be there?  Why would you want to spend time working with and developing people you do not enjoy being around?  Why would you not want to be friends - even best friends - with the people on your staff? 
At Saddleback we often say, "We take God very seriously; however, we don’t take ourselves seriously at all."  So one of the criteria we use for seeing if someone is a good fit here is: can he make fun of himself?  Can he handle being the brunt of a joke, or does he take himself too seriously? If a person can’t laugh at himself, he will not be fun to be around.  If a person takes himself too seriously, he is much more likely to place blame on others rather than accept responsibility for himself.  
Do you enjoy being around your staff?  Are you having fun at work?  If not, I would suggest that you rethink and change your hiring practices.  Church staffs that have fun – and stay together - are far more productive and cost the church less money in turnover.

Second, develop the job or position description.  This is your "think time.”  It is when you look at the overall church vision, and then look at how a position will help fulfill that mission.  When you do that, you reduce the chances of making a poor hiring choice. 
The time you spend on developing a position description is time well spent. You can’t think through all the implications and possibilities of any position, but the more "think time” you put into developing a job description, the better chance you’ll find the right person. 
Remember, a person does what he enjoys, not what a job description says, so find the person who enjoys doing the work that you need done.  
Once you know the type of person you want to hire - and have completed the position description – then, and only then, are you ready to begin your job search.

Third, take a look at your interview process. Take time to interview well! Use this time to determine if the person is the ‘fun’ person you want on your staff.   Determine if the candidate has the passion for the job you have. 
Does the candidate have the leadership ability and experience to take your team to where the church will be in five years?  These are some questions you’ll need to answer during the interview. The interview process is where you allow the candidate to share his life and his story. 
Hear everything the candidate has to say about himself, and do not help him tell his story!  Do not interrupt him. Do not coach him. Do not let him know what you are looking for. Allow him to talk and share.
Then, ask about his accomplishments and passion. Have him share conflict resolution stories, and have him share at least a couple of success stories from his ministry.  Measure his success, not on his standards but on your standards.

Once you’ve hired your staff, then what?
The church is a theological institution, so I believe that staff development includes an understanding of biblical theology.   Most churches probably wouldn’t hire a pastor who does not have seminary or Bible school training, but what about other staff? 
Every staff member is part of your ministry leadership team.  Yes, that means custodial staff, receptionists, administrative support, as well as your licensed and ordained pastors. The more theology your staff understands, the better equipped they are to represent Christ and your church in the community. 
We have custodial staff, administrative staff, receptionists, interns, as well as several staff whom God has called into full-time ministry currently taking seminary classes.  I strongly encourage providing seminary and other theological growth opportunities for your staff.  At Saddleback, I have budgeted money to help those staff who want to further their theological education.  Plus, we provide theological training in our staff meetings.

Staff members that play together stay together.  Part of staff development is planning activities both inside and outside the office for your staff.  We have celebrated Boss’s Day and Secretaries Day in very fun ways.  On one Boss’s Day, the office leadership served a dinner to the support staff in the home of one of our church members.  Ministerial staff members wore tuxes as they served and loved on the support staff.  It was a day for the leadership to say "thanks.”  This event made our support staff feel very special. 
On another occasion, we put the support staff on a train for a 15-minute ride to the next town, where the ministerial leadership had prepared breakfast at the beach.  There are countless things you can do to develop your staff into a fun, cohesive team of people. 

Regular staff meetings are important as well. The larger your staff becomes the more isolated and self-focused they often become.  We use our staff meeting times for teams to share what is happening in their area of ministry. Each week we honor a "hero” during the meeting.  This is someone we can praise for a job well done.  Another feature - because our staff is large - is a segment I call “Up Close and Personal.” We give a staff member 15 to 20 minutes to share their life story.  Getting to know others on staff will bring your staff closer together. 

Your staff is the most important group of people in your church.  They are the people who lead, support and guide your ministry volunteers.  If your staff is chosen properly, trained and motivated, your church will accomplish great things for God’s Kingdom here on earth.
-Pastors.com-

Thursday, September 16, 2010

THREE TYPES OF FAITH

"THE FACTS OF THE MATTER"

"A weekly letter of encouragement to business and professional men and women"

September 15, 2010

Good Morning!

THREE TYPES OF FAITH

The familiar narrative of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead reveals three types of faith in the people surrounding that story.  And guess what?  They are us!  Jesus was in Jerusalem when word came that his friend Lazarus in Bethany was ill.  ”So the sisters sent word to Jesus, ‘Lord, the one you love is sick.’ When he heard this, Jesus said, ‘This sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God's glory so that God's Son may be glorified through it.’  …When he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was two more days.” (Jn. 11:3-6)  In the mean time Lazarus dies.  As the story unfolds, three types of faith are revealed.  Which one is you?
1)  A manipulative faith is the kind of faith that believes God exists primarily to serve my needs.  This being true, I have little, if any concept that God may be operating on a larger stage than mine, or that I am an integral part of his grand design. Mary and Martha demonstrate this type of myopic faith in expecting Jesus to meet their needs, on their terms, and on their time table.  Said they to Jesus, “If you had been here, my brother would not have died.” (John 11:21, 32)
QUESTION:  When God appears not to meet your immediate needs, do you grouse about it, or choose to rest in the fact that he is working his will behind the scenes for a greater good, and for his glory?
2)  A detached faith is faith that intellectually knows the facts about Jesus to be true, but refuses to allow that truth to penetrate to the core of my being that matriculates into a commitment to faith in his lordship.  This story illustrates “detached faith” in two ways:
·         Some Jews, the Pharisees, and the chief priest knew, stone cold, that Jesus performed miracles, and that his miracles validated his claim to be the Son of man, the Messiah. Yet the Pharisees and chief priest’s fear of loosing power and control was so over-powering that they were willing to commit murder to stop Jesus rather than repent and surrender to him:
“Some [Jews] who saw [Jesus raise Lazarus], went to the Pharisees and told them what Jesus had done. Then the chief priests and the Pharisees called a meeting of the Sanhedrin. ‘What are we accomplishing?’ they asked. ‘Here is this man performing many miraculous signs. If we let him go on like this, everyone will believe in him, and then the Romans will come and take away both our place and our nation.’" (Jn. 11:46 - 48)
·         Caiaphas, the high priest “spoke up (in the Sanhedrin), ‘You do not realize that it is better for you that one man die for the people than that the whole nation perish.’ He did not say this on his own, but as high priest that year he prophesied that Jesus would die for the Jewish nation, and not only for that nation but also for the scattered children of God, to bring them together and make them one.” (Jn. 11:49b-53)
Here is this amazing prophesy by Caiaphas, concerning Jesus.   Yet there is no evidence that he personally confessed Christ as Lord.  As part of the powerful established leadership, he apparently remained in league with these future killers.
QUESTION:  Could it be that you know Christ is exactly whom he claims to be, but are unwilling to surrender to his Lordship?
3)  A genuine conversion-based faith is childlike in its embrace of Jesus as Lord and Savior:  “…Many of the Jews who had come to visit Mary, and had seen what Jesus did, put their faith in him.”  (Jn. 11:45)  (See Matt. 18:2-6)
QUESTION:  Have you chosen to put your faith in Jesus Christ, surrendering to his lordship not only for salvation but for daily living?

This week may you experience His grace, peace and protection!

R. Dwight Hill